BEFORE WE SAY “I DO” · PREMARITAL COUNSELING
Start Your Marriage as a Team
A structured 6-session program for engaged and committed couples. 90 minutes each, 9 hours total. Build the skills to argue well and repair, before you need them.
✓ Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist ✓ 6 sessions, 90 minutes each ✓ In person in Farmington, UT
WHY COUPLES COME IN
Build the Skills Before You Need Them
Premarital counseling is for engaged or seriously committed couples who want a strong start. You want to understand each other’s backgrounds and expectations, and build skills before problems show up.
Maybe you’ve already noticed a few small patterns you want to get ahead of. That’s a great reason to come in.
Together, you’ll…
Learn how to argue well and repair
Understand each other’s family patterns
Talk through expectations openly
Get ahead of small patterns early
Get on the same page before big decisions
Start married life with a shared vision
Before We Say “I Do”
“Love is the start, skills make it last.”
WHAT CHANGES
What You’ll Leave With
01
Know How to Argue Well
Handle conflict and know how to repair afterward.
02
Be on the Same Page
Talk through expectations before the big decisions come up.
03
A Shared Vision
Begin married life with a plan and the skills to back it up.
Paul Okula, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
HOW I WORK
Skills-Focused and Practical
This isn’t just a checklist. It’s the same approach I use in my couples work: understanding comes before fixing. Think of it as training before the season.
Communicate
Conflict and repair skills you practice in session.
Understand
Each other’s family patterns and how they show up.
Plan
Expectations, talked through before the wedding.
THE PROGRAM
What the 6 Sessions Cover
We begin with a short call to make sure the program is a good fit. Before our first session, you’ll both complete a relationship assessment that shapes where we spend our time. Each session is 90 minutes, and most of it is the two of you practicing while I coach.
SESSION 1
Where You’re Starting
Your history together, your assessment results, and what each of you expects married life to actually look like.
SESSION 2
One-on-One
Time split between each of you, privately. The honest conversation, plus what commitment is going to mean for you both.
SESSION 3
Your Pattern, and the Skill
How each of you is wired, the cycle you fall into, and the one skill you’ll practice from here on.
SESSION 4
Conflict Without Damage
What to do when it heats up: slowing it down, taking a real break, and coming back.
SESSION 5
Repair and Pressure
Owning your part, making it right afterward, and handling stress as a team instead of alone.
SESSION 6
The Intentional Marriage
Money, intimacy, roles, and family, plus your vision and rituals for the first year.
AFTER THE WEDDING
Follow-Up Session
A follow-up session about two months in, once real life has started. Included in the program.
INVESTMENT
$1,250
The full Before We Say “I Do” program: six 90-minute sessions, a relationship assessment, and a follow-up session after the wedding.
Questions? Email me at paul.okula@okulamatata.com.
GIVE IT AS A GIFT
A Gift for the Couple
Parents and family can give the full program as a gift. Fill out the short form and I’ll email you an invoice. Once it’s paid, I’ll send you the gift certificate.
Gift certificates never expire.
COMMON QUESTIONS
Common Concerns
“We don’t need it. We don’t fight.”
That’s the best time to learn how.
“Premarital counseling means something’s wrong.”
It’s prevention, like training before the season.
“Does this count for the marriage license discount?”
Yes. Utah takes $20 off the marriage license fee for couples who complete at least three hours of premarital counseling with a licensed therapist. You’ll get a certificate of completion to use when you apply.
Give Your Marriage a Strong Start
Learn to argue well, repair quickly, and start married life on the same page.
121 W 200 S, Farmington, UT 84025 · (801) 837-7055
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