COUPLES THERAPY · FARMINGTON, UT
Stop Having the Same Fight
For couples who love each other but keep getting stuck. Break the argument cycle and feel like a team again, using Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
✓ Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist ✓ In person in Farmington, UT ✓ Online available
IS THIS YOU?
You Love Each Other. You’re Both Tired.
You keep getting stuck in the same arguments. It often shows up when life gets heavy, at any stage: a new baby, a job change, money stress, or caring for a parent or child who needs extra help.
The annoyed tone and the rush to fix things aren’t working anymore. There is a better way to do this.
Couples often come in when…
Small things turn into big fights
It’s the same fight, over and over
One pushes to talk, the other shuts down
You feel more like roommates
One partner carries most of the load
Neither of you feels heard
If either of you has said…
“We’re living parallel lives.”
“I just want to feel heard without getting shut down.”
“One of us is carrying everything, and there’s nothing left for us.”
WHAT CHANGES
What Couples Want
01
Break the Argument Cycle
Talk about hard things without it becoming a war.
02
Feel Like a Team Again
Feel safe, heard, and on the same side.
03
Get Clear on What’s Next
If you’re not sure the relationship can be rebuilt, work out without blame whether to repair or move forward with clarity.
Paul Okula, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
HOW I WORK
Understanding Comes Before Fixing
The problem is the problem, not the person. I don’t pick sides. The relationship is my client.
Assess
A short assessment first, so we know where to focus.
Map the cycle
The cycle becomes the problem, not each other.
Practice
Work on communication skills in session until they work at home.
Couples who stick with it learn to catch the fight mid-spiral, bring things up more gently, and feel like a team again.
COMMON QUESTIONS
Common Concerns
“The therapist will decide who’s right.”
No. Both of you make sense.
“Couples therapy is a last resort.”
Earlier is better.
“My partner is the one who needs to change.”
Both people usually feed the same cycle.
“We’re fighting less, so we must be better.”
Sometimes it means someone has gone quiet.
IN-NETWORK WITH
You’re on the Same Team
Let’s help it feel that way again.
121 W 200 S, Farmington, UT 84025 · (801) 837-7055
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